Completely Sucky Odds October 16, 2004
I just don’t get it. Joining Julianna and me in the fucked over by a negative beta club are my dear friends Nina and Dawn. You would think that at least one of the four of us would get lucky. Why couldn’t it happen for at least one of us?
I know that IVF is a numbers game. You follow the numbers throughout the whole cycle. Number of follicles, E2 number, number of eggs retrieved, number of mature eggs, number of eggs fertilized, number of embryos making it to day 3 or 5, number of embryos transferred, beta number. Of course the biggest numbers game of all is whether you fall into the success percentage or the failure percentage. The percentage chance that anyone has of IVF working is dependent on many things and varies from person to person, but you usually get better than a 0/4 chance of it working.
It just pisses me off that this didn’t work for at least one of my friends. I am more sad for US than I was for me. These three ladies are beyond fabulous. They all deserved this so much. I just can’t comprehend why it couldn’t happen for any of us. I really can’t.
We’re all taking different roads following our failed IVFs. No matter what my friends decide to do from this point on, I wish the best for them. I hope they never have to face such crappy odds again.
- Posted in : various other ramblings
- Author : amanda
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completely sucky odds……unbelievable.
does IVF really work?? does it???
i love you amanda……………hang in there
I cannot believe these odds either. It defies logic.
I hope you are doing well, Amanda.
Nina
I’m with you, except I think “sucky” odds is an understatement.
People who are clueless about IVF have no idea how ultra-sucky the odds are. Those of us who go through it know that the odds are on the side of getting our hearts broken.
My heart is breaking for all of you.
I just don’t understand why this happens. There is no logic, no rhyme or reason, nothing.
It’s amazing…the odds I’ve encountered through IF have been mind boggling. If only I could play those odds, with the confidence I do through IF, at a casino in Vegas. I’d be friggin rich.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve had to deal with. It sucks, I know. Just know that I love you and am hoping and cheering that things get better for all of us.