This Might Be Just Inconvenient Enough October 18, 2004
I’ve been thinking about the timing of this FET cycle, and I’ve determined that it just might be inconvenient enough to work. We all know that you can’t plan too much during a cycle. There’s just no way to know when you’ll have to go in for ultrasounds, how your lining or follicles will respond, etc. You’ve got to be flexible.
Well, the first inconvenience has to do with trying to figure out holiday plans. Ever since my inlaws moved to California, my husband and I have spent Thanksgiving with one of our families and Christmas with the other, and then we’d alternate the following year. This year should be Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas with his. Here’s the deal. We won’t find out if this FET worked until mid December. Too late to be buying tickets to California. If this FET does by some miracle work, then Christmas will come before I’ve even had an ultrasound. I just don’t think I should be flying then. I don’t know what the actual medical recommendation is, but I would never forgive myself if I hopped on a plane to fly across the country and something happened or if we got back and didn’t see a heartbeat. I couldn’t live with myself, so I’m not willing to take the risk. My mother-in-law asked if we could come for Thanksgiving instead, but I’ll be having an ultrasound either the day before or after Thanksgiving and possibly both, so flying to CA is out then, too. So, the holidays are kind of up in the air right now.
The biggest inconvenience that would come if this FET worked would come around due date time. Of course I’ve already looked up my due date if this were to work, and
guess what? It would be mid August. When does my husband’s clerkship start? Mid August. So, we would be moving to another state right around my due date. Perfect timing.
I’m thinking that this might be enough for this to work this time around. I mean of course it wouldn’t work when the timing was awesome. Flying to CA during the second trimester, perfect. Moving when the baby’s a few months old, great. I knew that was just too easy. We don’t get dealt “easy” in our household. Just doesn’t happen. So, maybe this will be it. Of course, I will happily deal with any inconvenience that comes my way if this would just work this time. Throw it at me fate. I can take it. Just let this happen this time, will ya?
- Posted in : IVF Part 2: FET #1, various other ramblings
- Author : amanda
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Oh my I’m LMAO! Maybe I should *not* wait until January or February until I do my own FET. Granted I wont be dealing with as many traveling issues (just island hopping – I live in Hawaii and family is all over the state) but I figure I’d push the FET back because Christmas would be such a stressful time to begin with. Well now you’ve got me reconsidering …
-Anne
Here is hoping that you are in labor when the movers are scheduled!!!
Take care.
I love the way you think. May all of these inconveniences add up to a positive Beta following your FET.
Dang, Amanda–I think you’re on to something here! You’re right, it is just inconvenient enough to actually work! We all know how the universe conspires to heap it on….
But all kidding aside, I hope it actually works for a multitude of other reasons–not the least of which is that you rock.
I love it! It’s just so bad, it HAS to work! FYI, I seriously doubt your RE will let you travel. During my First round of IVF, I had plans to travel the day after my beta. At the transfer, my Dr. said there was NO WAY she was going to let me get on a plane if I were PG. She put it like this “you have been through so much and if something were to happen, you would never know whether it was the traveling or not and you would beat yourself up.” She also said it is not the traveling per se, but rather the lifting and carrying that you do when you travel, even without thinking about it.
I guess you will be “grounded” for the holidays. I really hope your in-laws understand. Pretty good reason, after all :-)
Where is Dh’s clerkship? In Dallas?
-A
Know any good IF psychics?? I, too, could use one right about now.
Yes, I love to plan. Positive plans are the best.
Marla
Middle Way
My mother, having lived in the northeas all her life, moved to Alabama while 8 months pregnant. My father stayed in Philadelphia to finish his doctoral thesis with the help of my mother who was typing up final drafts in Alabama and express mailing them to him while moving into a new house and neighborhood where she knew NO ONE. He arrived in Alabama 2 days before his new job started. She went into labor on his second day of work. It was 98 degrees and humid the day my sister was born. Yippee for bad timing! Best of luck…I’m a big believer in good things happening at the worst possible time.
Ya know, I think you might be on to something! Life can be so crazy like that. Here’s to wishing, hoping and praying for
an inconvenient year ahead! :)
Oh my! This is exactly my same issue! This year we are expected to spend Christmas with my husband’s family in CT. So I mentioned to him that the timing might not work so well… but he wanted to get plane tickets anyway. I know I won’t win any points with the in-laws (my MIL is tough!) if we don’t show up – but I realized that my number one priority is to get pregnant and I really can’t let anything else (besides all the other biological hurdles) throw us off schedule. The clock is ticking… and truth be known, we wanted to get in one more cycle for tax purposes. Ha!
I hate to be the downer here, but my IVF was scheduled during the MOST inopportune time in my life, and we know the results I got (in fact I blame the results on this fact!) However, here’s hoping that you get better results with your inconvenient timing than I did.
PS – Go Astros!
GOOD LUCK, I AM HAVING MY SECOND FET ON NOVEMBER 25 AND HOPE THIS ONE WORKS FOR ME, I HAD MY FIRTS ICSI AND GOT A BFN AND OVARIAN HYPERSTIMULATION AND ENDED UP IN THE HOSPITAL FOR A WEEK ON MY ICSI # 2 PRODUCES 30 EGGS AND GOT HYPERSTIMULATES AGAIN ANOTHER BFN, WE DID FET #1 AND BFN , SO I HOPE THIS ONE IS MY LUCKY TIME , IT HAS BEEN MANY MONTHS ON MEDS AND SIDE EFFECTS BUT I TRY TO STAY POSITIVE , SO MAYBE ME WILL BE DOING THIS AT THE SAME TIME, GOOD LUCK
SANDY