What Great Timing July 5, 2005
I know I said I didn’t want to complain anymore, but I’ve got a doozy that I just can’t contain. My in-laws have been planning to fly out here in August for vacation and to help us with our move. They were also considering coming out here for July 4th but decided against it, so they’re going to be staying longer during their August trip.
Now, I should clarify that I have no problem with my in-laws coming to visit. We get along fine, and we don’t get to see them very often due to the fact that they live across the country. I’m all for them coming out here, but…
We found out this weekend that they’re most likely coming August 2nd through the 11th. When will beta probably end up being? Probably sometime between August 3rd and 6th. Oh, yeah. You see the problem.
I’m really not looking forward to the prospect of getting the negative beta call while my in-laws are in town. What the hell would I do then? Drug myself with a handful of Vicodin and lock myself in the bathroom? Fuck. That’s going to be fun.
Oh sure, it could go the other way, and things wouldn’t be as traumatic. Excuse me while I go laugh my ass off at the thought of an actual happy ending. But yeah, the odds of that happening are slim to none.
I have no clue how I’m going to handle this. Our families have known about this IVF stuff from day one and have been really supportive. However, we’ve always had time to ourselves to recover after the wrath of beta day. The thought of not having that scares me.
I know they’ll understand if I ask for time alone or whatever, but it’s still not going to be a good situation. Oh, man. This is going to be interesting.
- Posted in : IVF Part 5: IVF #3
- Author : amanda
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Oh, Amanda — that really sucks! I can’t imagine trying to hide the emotions of a negative beta but neither can I imagine sharing them with in-laws.
Wow, you’re brave. I don’t even like anyone knowing when the betas are for fear of too many expectant phone calls. I hope somehow you can get through it.
And I’m planning on lying to everyone about timing so I don’t have to tell them when it happens. You have my sympathy. Just ask them for what you need, though – could you even send them away for a day or so on a trip?
Oh no. Seriously. I started round two when my SIL and her fiancee were here (they didn’t know anything about it) but I am sure they wondered why I all of a sudden turned into a humorless zombie. I look at the pictures of their wedding (they decided to get married when they were here) and I look at myself and remember how I was thinking “This is hell. Get me out of here.”
Is there anything at all you can do? I mean, it is nice of them to come help you move and all, but, ugh.
I know the fear…ugh. Such bad timing. You have my sympathy, I don’t blame you for worrying about this!
Sheesh Amanda. That timing couldn’t be any worse. Thalia recommended that they could go away for a couple days, great idea. If they can’t go away for a couple days, could you sneak away for a couple days? Tell them you had a last minute work trip, one of your friends needs help and just stay with a friend or in a cheap motel. At least for the night, while you digest the news, be it good or bad.
For all the crap you’ve been through, you at least deserve to digest the news on your own schedule.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Yeah, I had that happen this cycle, and of course, it was negative and I had a HUGE houseful of people (mostly family) when I found out…
Not something I recommend by the way.
Oh God. I can’t imagine dealing with a beta (positive or negative) with my own family around, let alone the inlaws. You’ve got to do what you’ve got to do– be it asking the inlaws to come at a different time, asking them for a day to yourselves or whatever.
Eyyyya, girl.
That is a sticky one. I can only send you lots of love and “shit shit shits.” I hope it works out the best way it can.
Karen/naked ovary
Yikes.
Have you talked with DH about this? I mean maybe he can come up with an idea then talk with them. Have they already bought their plane tickets? If not, maybe the timing of their visit could be changed somehow? I guess that’s kind of hard when you don’t even know for sure what day your beta will be. I hope something can be figured out.
Staci
Well my friend – you know I just went through this, so I empathize completely. If you’re on good terms with them could they come a little earlier or a little later? My thought was even ONE day alone to absorb the news (and alcohol) was absolutely mandatory.
Eeeeesh.
Alternately, is there any way you could take off for a day? Eeeeeeesh.