One Week Down, One Week to Go July 29, 2005
I seem to have managed to make it to the halfway point of the two week wait. We all know that the second week is way worse, so judging by how I’ve fared this week, I may be locked in the loony bin by next Friday.
I’m trying to keep busy without overworking myself. We’ve got some distractions planned, so that may help. My brother and his girlfriend are coming into town tomorrow, and we’re going to an Astros game tomorrow night. That’s always fun.
We’ve got law firm stuff to attend two nights next week. Next week is my husband’s last week at the firm before he starts his clerkship, so we’ll be going to a dinner with his fellow associates on Monday night and to a dinner party hosted by one of the partners on Wednesday night. It’s a good thing I already packed all of my “going to a firm event” shoes and clothes. Looks like I’ll be breaking out the scissors.
Plus, there’s all of this packing/moving stuff to do between now and then. It should keep me busy, but I doubt it will really keep my mind off of the really important stuff.
Now for a completely random rant. What is it with people saying, “I just know this is it” or “I just know this cycle is the one?” I don’t get it. How do they know? I don’t know, my doctor doesn’t know, no one else knows, how did they come about this divine knowledge?
I know people are trying to be positive and hopeful and all that good stuff. I know they’re just being nice. I guess those statements just rub me the wrong way.
Do those words come out of people’s mouths (or keyboards) because they look at how your cycle is going and think that it has a good chance of working? Is it because you transferred good quality embryos? Well, I’ve transferred eleven good quality embryos in previous cycles. What would make you think that these three stand any better chance of sticking around? Is it because it “should” finally be your turn? Well, I personally think it should have been my turn a couple of cycles ago. That means nothing to the IVF gods.
I just want to know how they can be so confident. It would be a much safer bet to tell me that they know that this cycle is going to fail just like the others. How can anyone think this is really going to work this time?
- Posted in : IVF Part 5: IVF #3
- Author : amanda
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You’re right - no one can really know if you are going to be sucessful or not. I suppose people don’t know what else to say. My mum is always saying “You’ll get pregnant…just relax”. Bollocks to that!
Yeah I have a friend who always tells me that she “just knows’ that all of this IVF torture will be “worth it.” Worth it for whom?? My RE and his bank account? This same friend also claims that prayer can work miracles that doctors can’t. I’m thinking there may be a direct correllation btwn unyielding, irrational optimism and insanity. My fingers remain crossed for you.
Glad you’ve got some distractions to get you through the next week. And you’re right, no one really knows if this is it or not. I suspect they just think that if there was some justice in the world, it should be your turn.
Aagh! I hate that too! Do you know how many people have told me “they just know” that my last two cycles were going to work? Yeah, and we all know how that turned out. Bleh.
I’m glad you have some distractions!
I guess what they mean is that they really WANT this one to be the one for you. I know I really really really hope it is. Thinking of you.
People just really do not know what to say at times. When I was pregnant last year, everyone told me they knew it was a girl. After my miscarriage, genetic testing revealed that it was a girl. One of my “good” friends actually had the nerve to say to me “I told you it was a girl.” It really doesn’t matter what anyone says or feels, nobody knows what will be. All we can do is hope for you!
Ignore the fuckers! Hope you manage to keep distracting yourself anyway.
I have no idea why people say that. It drives me nuts and pisses me off. My mantra is “people mean well, people mean well, poeple mean well.” Its the only thing that keeps me from ripping people heads off. … well it works most of the time. ;)
Have fun with the distractions. I just realized you must be in H-town… I’m up the road in Austin but orignally from Houston.
Add me to the list of people annoyed to death by those types of statements. I don’t care if people “mean well”, they don’t fucking know, so they should quit acting like they do!
Hoping this next week goes by smoothly for you…
I’m with B and Brenda and everyone else above. But meanwhile, Amanda, I am hoping, hoping, hoping for you. Some good stuff has happened in blogland lately and I don’t see why you shouldn’t be part of it. Hugs to you and good luck with keeping yourself distracted (now and then at least) during the second half of your 2ww.
A friend who went through IVF actually said to me, “I have a good feeling…”
She should know better.
Good luck with all your distractions!
AMANDA,
I just know this is the cycle for you. Take care and hang in there.
JUST FUCKING KIDDING…. I hate that crap too. Sounds like you have a lot going on next week. I hope it all keeps you busy and somewhat distracted.
People either a) mean well and just want to offer something positive or b) feel so uncomfortable about what you’re going through that they say these things to themselves more than to you.
In my experience, its the latter.
Try responding with “And I just know you’re going to have the biggest poo ever later today.”
That’ll shut em up.
Everything looked stellar and everyone told me that this was “going to be it!” Boy were they wrong. I hope you can get through the next week in one piece.
I hear you. My MIL keeps telling me she is sure this FET will work because (you’re going to love this one) 3 is her lucky number and it’s my third try. How fortunate that my success is dependent on her lucky number and not my own which is 28.
I think those confident comments come from the heart and it’s so hard for the heart to comprehend the odds.
Wishing you some peace through this time of change and impatience.
i don’t know if this is THE one for you or not but i sure as hell hope it is, i’d love to come back and see a perky + post but you know i’ll be back regardless bit like a fly like that can’t get rid of me … now if only i could get my blog back up :( i can’t even vent online anymore so your already way ahead of me there… good luck lovely i’ll sacrifice a mars bar to the IF gods in your honor