One More Time October 3, 2005
I think that’s the mantra of a lot of IVF vets, me included. Oh, you know where this is going, right? We’ve decided to do another cycle.
When we started with this IVF crap, we decided that we would do two fresh cycles and any FETs we could get from them. That was it, and we’d move on. After we had gotten through our two fresh cycles and resulting two FETs and still hadn’t found success, we decided that we’d do one more fresh cycle with a new RE so that we wouldn’t have any “what ifs” to worry about with regards to only doing cycles with one clinic. That was really going to be it, though. No more.
Well, we got pregnant. We had finally made it after all of that crap. And then as soon as it had come, it went away. It changed things, though. How could it not?
So, even though we said never again, we will be doing another fresh cycle. Shit, who would have thought I would have to add an IVF Part 6 category to my blog? No one ever thinks that it’s going to be them who ends up doing multiple IVF cycles. No one ever expects the worst, at least not at first. If you had told us before we had started our first cycle that we’d be doing a fourth fresh cycle down the road, we would have never believed it.
This is our reality, though. We’re not ready to give up, so on we go. I literally had to shake on it that this really would be the last fresh cycle, though.
We still have a few months to wait because of all of this miscarriage business, but it’s nice knowing that limboland will not last forever. We have another chance. Who knows what will happen with it. We may be devastated once again. The truth of the matter is, though, that it won’t ever work it we do nothing, so we’re going to give it another shot. Just one more time.
- Posted in : Limboland: the aftermath of IVF Part 5
- Author : amanda
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Nothing to say but I’m thinking of you and good luck!!
I can only imagine how hard going into another cycle must be after all you’ve been through, but at the same time I’m so glad you guys are giving it another shot. I hope this doesn’t sound annoying, but I’m still so hopeful for you. And like you said, it won’t work if you do nothing.
Amanda, you are wise beyond your years. I really have to remember the phrase that “it won’t ever work if you do nothing.” That encompasses so much in those few words. I’m glad you have a plan. You are an amazing woman.
It does seem like you get closer and closer every time you try, so I can understand why you’d want to go on. Wishing you all the best!
we agreed on the 2 fresh and any fets thing too, but even as I uttered the words “ok just 2 plus left overs”, a part of me knew I was lieing, ivf takes no prisoners it’s all or nothing, i’m glad your going to give it another shot and you know i’ll be thinking of you and wishing you every success all along the way..
Good luck on the new cycle. Getting pregnant has a way of changing all your plans, whether it lasts or not.
A friend sent me a great quote the other day: “Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.” I think that rings especially true for people going through infertility, when it’s so important to feel that you have done all you could. You have gotten so close, and I am so glad for you and your husband that you’re on the same page about giving it another shot.
I don’t suppose congratulations is quite the right word, but you know what I mean!
Wishing you all the best. And I’m happy to hear you’re giving it another go…
I will hold your hand if you need a little help.
You are so right about no one ever really thinks it will be them who does multiple IVFs…..so true.
It is a never-ending nightmare sometimes.
We have been toe to toe with all of our IVFs Amanda and I just want you to know that you give me strength to carry on.
Thank you.
Amanda that’s a courageous decision to take and I applaud you. Having just done the one I’m frightened at the possibility of more but I know I could do it. Would do it.
Please please please let this be the one.
I’m excited for you! Fingers crossed. And yes, who would’ve ever guessed how this would turn out for so many of us. I was SURE with the first IVF. Naive, naive, naive. Best of luck to you!
My thoughts are with you, Amanda. So hoping this will be the one.
Amanda, I’m very glad that you’ve come to this decision – to *a* decision – the non-decision part seemed to be so hard. And it sounds as if this was the right decision for you both, too. I do hope that this will be the one.
My very best thought and wishes are with you Amanda.
I am thrilled to hear you are going to give it one more go with a fresh cycle. I could hear it in your posts that there would always be a nagging “what if”, if you didn’t give it one more go.
Here’s wishing the very best of results, but in case that isn’t what you get at least you can truly sit back afterwards and say “we gave it EVERYTHING we had.” And you’ll know that in your hearts.
Good for you both. I am so happy to hear this news.
Good. Good. I’ll be out here waiting and hoping for you.
I am so pleased that you have both reached a consensus and made a decision together. The fact that it did work last time is such a positive thing. I always say “Look at Brenda – 7 times”.
I’m glad you’ve decided what you want to do. I am really hoping for you. And I’m right behind you, with IVF #4 underway, when I never ever thought I woudl try more than 3 times.
Ugh- what a hard, awful process the whole decision making piece is. I’m glad you made a decision that works for both of you- here’s hoping that the 6th time is a charm.
You ralley saved my skin with this information. Thanks!