Comments on: Guest Post: The Husband

By: Manana Banana » Time for a Much Needed Getaway

Manana Banana » Time for a Much Needed Getaway — Mon, 31 May 2010 01:50:34 +0000

[...] off the bat, I want to thank my husband for his post. It took some nagging encouragement to get him to do it, but I really think he enjoyed it once he [...]

By: dan

dan — Tue, 06 Jun 2006 16:14:44 +0000

Thanks so much for the comments everybody. For some reason we’re getting a lot of comment spam on this post that has to be deleted manually, so I’m going to close comments here.

By: Doug

Doug — Wed, 29 Mar 2006 03:29:10 +0000

Dan…

My wife and I didn’t do IVF but decided immediately after 3 failed pregnancies to go the adoption route.

We brought our daughter home from China in November of 2002. She just turned 4 in February and is absolutely the joy of our life. God, what an incredible little girl.

It would be awesome if you chose to adopt from China. You wouldn’t be disappointed.

By: DI Dad

DI Dad — Thu, 29 Dec 2005 05:29:07 +0000

Dan – I encourage you to guest post more often. Its rare that the guys view is posted even when the issue is male factor. If more men did post it would help the countless others who need support and are ashamed to seek it out. Good luck ! – A Dad via DI (aka DI Dad)

By: Adadsomeday

Adadsomeday — Wed, 28 Dec 2005 13:44:32 +0000

Dan,

Thanks so much for writing this. Now that my wife and I are beginning this long journey (due in part to my undeceded testis), it is important to me to find out about others experience. Especially from other guys.

Keep up the good fight!

By: zhl

zhl — Tue, 08 Nov 2005 22:26:57 +0000

Dan, Thanks for posting and reminding me of the male perspective. I know that all of this affects my husband as much as it does me, but his feelings are rarely articulated as, um, vocally as mine. Amanda is a lucky woman.

By: T

Mon, 07 Nov 2005 01:47:42 +0000

Aw Dan – it’s so nice to hear from you. What a lovely couple and what a great couple of parents you’ll be.

By: amanda

amanda — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 17:55:03 +0000

Thalia- If you look at any of the places that list risk factors for MF IF, hernia surgery is always on the list. I think most doctors are aware of that now. I don’t know if they were back when Dan had his surgery or not. The doctor who performed his surgery is probably dead by now, so there’s no way of going back to talk to him. I do believe that doctors are cognizant of the fact that IF can be caused by hernia surgeries. If you look at Cornell’s page entiled Fertility Preserving Hernia Repair you can see that IF caused by hernia surgery is definitely something that people are aware of and is something that they are trying to prevent.

By: PJ

PJ — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 16:54:32 +0000

Thanks for sharing your side of this, Dan. It’s nice to hear it from the male perspective.

By: thalia

thalia — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 16:22:53 +0000

Than you Dan, for sharing that. I’ve thought often how hard it must be for men to deal with male factor. It sounds as if you and Amanda have worked through it incredibly well together. I’m just sorry that you have to go through it at all.

Is this something that’s true for many boys who have surgery at that age? Have you been back to your surgeon when you were a child, or those who do that surgery now to point out the side effects and hopefully improve their approach?

By: Jennie

Jennie — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 16:16:56 +0000

at long last the missing half of the dynamic duo, not that you wrote it for me but I loved your post, no matter how it comes about you’ll make a great set of parents.

By: Julie

Julie — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 14:27:37 +0000

I agree with Lorrie – you have a medical condition. It is what it is – don’t blame yourself. My husband has low sperm count and I have high FsH. Guess we hit the infertility jackpot didn’t we? We are now close to bringing our son home from Guatemala.

I hope the adoption process is quick and enjoyable for you (it has been – for the most part – for us).

By: lorrie

lorrie — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 03:47:23 +0000

Honey, it wasn’t your fault any more than it was my husband’s fault that he got cancer in 1970.

We adopted from China in 1999 and 2001 and are THRILLED!! And don’t listen to all the bonding/orphanage delay doom and gloom. Our kids are bright, healthy and attached.

By: mm

mm — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 02:18:08 +0000

Fabulous post. I know that all the Hell you two have gone through will result in a baby, one way or another. Thanks for sharing your side of the story, Dan.

By: Sheri

Sheri — Sat, 05 Nov 2005 20:58:26 +0000

Thank you for the great post Dan. It really hit home as my husband also has azoospermia. Best of luck to you both.

By: ericalil

ericalil — Sat, 05 Nov 2005 14:35:56 +0000

What a wonderful post! Good luck exploring China adoption, and with the last cycle.

My husband (Jeff) and I are adopting from Guatemala, and while doing our last FET, it was such a comfort to know that even if it didn’t work (it didn’t) we would be parents in the not-too-distant future.

All the best to you both!

By: Pamplemousse

Pamplemousse — Sat, 05 Nov 2005 14:17:49 +0000

Thank you, Dan, for sharing with us. You and Amanda are amazing and I am looking forward to sharing the rest of your family journey with you both.

By: OvaGirl

OvaGirl — Sat, 05 Nov 2005 09:33:27 +0000

Thankyou Dan. Great to hear your voice. You and Amanda are a formidable team. You’ll get your baby, one way or another.

By: EmDee

EmDee — Sat, 05 Nov 2005 01:28:23 +0000

Thank you for your post. It made me tear up. So often we focus on what we, as women, are going through that we forget there’s another side to the story. I’m going to share your post with my husband. I think it’s really helpful for you to be so honest about your feelings. Post more!

By: Susan / holdingpattern

Susan / holdingpattern — Sat, 05 Nov 2005 01:09:06 +0000

Dan, I am SO glad to hear from you and learn about your side of the story! I feel like I’ve gotten to know Amanda pretty well from reading her blog for the last 8 months, but this really helps complete the picture.
Thanks!

I gots to get me husband guest postin’ to my blog as well…