Denial Meets Distraction June 1, 2006
I’m still firmly planted in denial land but thought it might be a good idea to through a little distraction into the mix. You can’t have too many coping mechanisms it seems.
We decided to move ahead with the house stuff and submitted an offer on the house we had our eye on. Getting all of that paperwork completed was definitely a good distraction. Unfortunately we found out this morning that our offer wasn’t selected. Someone else decided to submit an offer on the same day and when they found out that they were in a multiple offer situation, they upped their offer to above listing price.
I’m bummed because we really, really liked that house. We’ve been looking for a month and a half and haven’t found anything we like nearly as much. Oh, well. I guess that’s how things go. To be honest, I didn’t think we could have both the house stuff and other “not to be named” stuff both work out well at the same time. We’re not that lucky. If I were given the choice, you know which one I’d choose.
So, we’re back to the drawing board with the house hunting stuff. We still have time, but it would have been nice just to have it done.
As much as the distraction has been good, this house stuff has made me a little more nervous. Adding one nerve wracking wait on top of another isn’t always the best idea. Of course I can’t help but wonder if not getting this house is the beginning of things starting to unravel. I know it’s not a rational thought, but it would be just my luck.
I guess I really just need to focus on living in denial land for now. My mind goes too many ugly places otherwise. Ok, let’s give it a shot. Ultrasound? What ultrasound? House? What house? See, it’s working already.
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- Author : amanda
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Ah! Be glad that the sellers didn’t come back to you and ask you to up your offer to compete with the other. This happened to us with our house and it was, in a word, awful. We ended up getting the house, but the bidding war left a pretty bad taste in our mouths. We later found out that the other bidder was a good friend of the owner. In other words, buying a house is hard, but if keeps your mind off the other thing, so much the better.
I guess the housing market is quite different out there than it is here! I’ve had friends make many offers on many houses before finally getting one (and have to bid way over asking…) So, in my jaded west-coast eyes, I hardly see the house thing as a bad omen. That probably doesn’t help at all, sorry. On the other hand, distractions are good! Non-stressful distractions are better, but work with what you’ve got. I’ve been thinking about you lots!
Nonononono, not getting the house just means your attentions are needed elsewhere. Okay, maybe not, but that sounds better.
Let’s see, distractions… I find that playing 8000 games of FreeCell in a row is pretty good at keeping me distracted.
I’m sorry you didn’t get the house, Amanda. I hope there’s a better house just waiting for you to find it.
But I think it’s good because it’s taking your mind off things… and a distraction is exactly what’s needed in order for that little one to keep growing in there.
House shopping, yuck that can be so stressful. Sorry you lost out but I hope there is a better one out there for you!
All the best and good luck trying to keep distracted.
We lost the house I really loved, too. They sold it to a friend of theirs. I went to bed because it was the only way to cope with the sadness. But we found another house.
So what’s good on tv recently?
Sounds like denial land is doing it’s job!
We had similar house dramas right smack bang in the middle of a cycle (bfn)- eventually I just threw my hands in the air and didn’t give a shit. We ended up getting a different house a WHOLE lot cheaper, so looking back it’s just as well that we didn’t get the one I loved. I hope that this is what is going to happen to you guys, and you’ll just get something better!!
House hunting is such a stressful activity. The city that I live in boasts nasty bidding wars for almost every house on the market which makes it almost impossible to get a place for a decent price. Good luck!
If you live in a competitive market, I have two words for you: escalation clause. I’m surprised Dan didn’t think of it. (I take it his speciality is not real estate.) Our agent wrote something in the contract that raised the price in $500 increments if a competing offer is received with a cap of say, $2000. The other agent must show you a copy of any competing offer.
I live in southern Va, and we have had this crazy crap for the past 5 years.
In northern Va, (I don’t live there thank God) some people have escalation clauses up to 10 PERCENT OF THE PURCHASE PRICE. One of my friends there tried to buy a condo a couple of years ago. She offered 150,000 for a 900 square foot, one bedroom, one bath condo. She had a 10% escalation clause. She STILL lost the condo and it had 16 other offers.
Aren’t you glad you’re going to in the middle of the country?
Hope you are distracted now too. :)
Delurking to say sorry about the house and good luck with everything else!!
Sorry about the house (house? what house?) and hoping wishing praying for you that the u/s is excellent!
You never know what will happen in a real estate transaction….maybe those buyers will flake out or not be approved for their loan? It happens all the time. I hope that you two find a home that you love just as much as this one.
I’m sorry you were outbid. I thought it was more of a buyer’s market right now but I guess not in the particular area you’re moving to? Where I live in FL there is a lot more inventory sitting on the market for longer periods of time. People are lucky if they are getting the asking price. We do like our house but have actually been house hunting too because we want more land. I can’t stand this being right up against neighbors!
Anyway, I definitely would not interpret not getting the house as a sign of anything other than what it is. I’m willing to bet something you like even better will come along.
I hate that you were outbid. I honestly despise the house hunting process – it just stress me out. Don’t read anything into not getting the house; I hope you find another one you like even better.
Distraction is a beautiful thing…but I’m sorry about the house. This can only mean that there is a magnificent one (or at least totally awesome one) waiting for you. Your beta is gowing, which is fantastic. I hope the u/s goes well…fingers still crossed.
bummer about the house not working out. I hope you find another house you like even better.
good luck on the event that shall not be mentioned.
I live in one of the worse/most expensive housing markets. I bid for and got the first place I looked at. I was lucky. I didn’t have a realtor and could use the sellers’ realtor. While this could be dangerous, the realtor told us when the seller’s next house payment would be due and I could put in a bid for closing just before then. It automatically raised our bid by over $1000. Now, $1000 is chump change only four years later, as the place has almost tripled in value, but it’s a good ploy and put us in 2nd place in bids without us paying extra. The seller wanted to go with somebody else, but the realtor liked me, not to mention getting the full commisssion, so the seller went with me.
Are you going to open houses tomorrow?
Dear Amanda, I’m sorry about the house. That must be frustrating!
I hope Lady Luck more than makes up for her oversight tomorrow, though, and provides you with a reassuring, wonderful ultrasound.
Thinking about you and wishing you the best tomorrow!