Warning: My Attempt at P-Word Talk August 1, 2006
I know some people would like me to post more pregnancy (there, I said it) details on my blog, and I’m sure some could do without. It’s just still weird for me to talk about. I think things are starting to sink in a bit more these days, but I’m still far from a “normal” pregnant gal.
I don’t really know how to sit down and just talk about it, so I’m going to answer Jamie’s questions.
1. Have you gained weight? A little, 3 pounds to be exact.
2. Have you felt the baby flutter yet? Nope, but I check things out with the doppler at least once a day to make sure things are still alive in there.
3. Who have you told? My immediate family and Dan’s immediate family have both known about all of this stuff all along. They’ve know about each and every one of our cycles along with the outcomes. They’ve been under strict instruction not to spill the beans until instructed, though. After I crossed over into the second trimester and got my nuchal translucency results back, I let them know that it was ok to tell people but only those who would be supportive if things didn’t continue to go well.
4. Have you told anyone who doesn’t know about your infertility? Well, my mom told my grandparents just a couple of days ago. (She would have told them long ago if it was up to her, I think.) They knew nothing about our infertility history. I asked my mom if she told them about the IVF stuff, and she said that she printed out the picture of our embryos along with all of my ultrasound pictures and showed them and tried to explain the whole thing. She thinks they got it. My grandma’s response was, “I wondered why they were waiting so long.” They are, of course, happy for us, too.
5. How are the reactions different between those who know and those who don’t? I don’t have a ton of experience with this yet, but I’m sure they will be different. The people who know about our IVF stuff really know about it. Our immediate families know everything we’ve been through, and although they’ll never know what it’s like to go through it, they get how it makes things different for us. I’m sure people who don’t know about our background won’t get that. I have zero problems talking about the IVF stuff, though, so I’m sure a lot of people who didn’t know about it will after they find out about the current situation.
Wow, I think that’s the most I’ve posted about the specifics in one post. It’s just still weird for me to talk about. I have managed to utter the p-word a couple of times, but the m-word, as in the section of the clothing store that intimidates me beyond belief, and the b-word, as in that thing that I can only hope to have in my arms at the end of this, have yet to cross my lips. I just can’t get them out.
I have to say, though, that even though I’m still extremely scared, I am very happy. I woke up this morning, rolled over towards Dan, and told him that I was so glad that we kept going. I know it was hard, and I know that there’s still a chance that this won’t work out, but right now I’m just so damn glad that we kept at it.
- Posted in : Post cycle #7: Trying to stay knocked up
- Author : amanda
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I just couldn’t be happier for you. I want to hear all about it, keep writing!
I also want to hear all about it, and I’m glad that you and Dan were able to have that moment this morning!
So awesome for you and Dan. I am just so, so, happy for you. You give me hope.
You know what? We are all so damn glad you kept at it. It’s wonderful now to see you well on your way to your long awaited happy ending!
I am so glad you kept at it too! I know things are still scary but they also look SO good. I want to hear any and all details you’d like to share with us. If anyone was ever deserving of this, it’s you!
I love hearing about it. And that post made me very happy and very hopeful.
For me, once the b was here, I realized just how glad I was that we kept going. Honestly, just like others have said, it is all worth it.
And this post? Wonderful. Your joy? Apparent and contagious.
It’s wonderful to know that you have such a supportive family. It takes a village indeed.
There’s a whole of us out here who are damn glad you kept at it, too ;)
I’m so happy for you that you have such a supportive family, and I hope you find yourself surrounded by even more supportive friends and family as you continue to share your news!
Dee is right, your Joy is absolutely contagious. Please don’t hesitate to share the P word and its related joys and trials. We are all so happy for you!!!
Dee is right, your Joy is absolutely contagious. Please don’t hesitate to share the P word and its related joys and trials. We are all so happy for you!!!
This is a beautiful thing, Amanda. I am so happy for you guys and would love to hear about your pregnancy. This is just awesome.
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but right now I’m just so damn glad that we kept at it.
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You deserve this sweetie. I am so deeply happy for you and continue to hope and pray you get that b-word.
The only thing I *do* wish you would do is at least tell us how far along (week wise) you are every so often.. I hate having to go back and try to count..lol…
Hugs Sweetie, Hugs.
amanda, you ARE doing sooo well :)
thanks for sharing all your wonderful news!! my son (15 yr. old, Jake) just asked me if i was checking on ” that lady ” again…haha..he wanted me to make sure you were still fine! i hope you know that you are :-)
I have lurked and lurked for a long time, waiting for this kind of post. I cannot tell you how very happy I am for you. Excited and apprehensive….right along with you and Dan.
I’m so glad you kept at it too, you brave people. So happy that things are going well.
Yipppieeee!!!!! Doing a dance for you over here :)
I love reading your blog because I’m just a week behind you! Have you felt movement yet? Did I miss that question? PRobably! :)
Ok just found the answer to that question!
congrats on reaching a new milestone, amanda.
Wow, Amanda! I’m glad you are getting more comfortable in your new “maternal” skin. And the house is beautiful. so much to be grateful for. I’m so happy for you and Dan.
Thanks for answering my questions. I am really curious about what it feels like on the other side and it sounds like it is still really scary but there has to be so much hope as well.
I think even those of us who are still in the IVF want to know about your pregnancy more than we may even want to know about our best friends because we know you understand — you’ve been there and you understand the fear (even the fear that you still have) and most “normal” people are oblivious to those things.
I am so happy for you and I am anxious to hear more details as things progress. :)
I think that we just have to be happy for each day that things are still going well. It is good to hear that you are also starting to feel more comfortable with things. Take care.
So happy to hear you are happy!
It is nice to know that persistance may just do the trick. Thank you for your words of support over at my place, Amanda.
I am happy for you too.
I’m thrilled for you and love reading about your details…difficult as they are.
I’m glad to hear you’re happy (obviously still worried, definately can’t blame you there!!), how is Dan doing?
I’m just so happy for you and keeping my fingers crossed that things continue to go smoothly. After everythng you’ve been through I totally respect your apprehensions. And hope that over time they will ease up so you can enjoy your pregnancy and all the firsts that come with it.
Just want you to know I’m sending you love and prayers.
Shell
Yeah the P word, so proud of you! Hopefully the B word will follow shortly!
Superior tihnknig demonstrated above. Thanks!