Progress October 16, 2006
All of this pregnancy stuff still feels very surreal to me, but I’ve made a little bit of progress recently.
- I registered for hospital classes today. Given Dan’s busy schedule, I knew I needed to get that done sooner rather than later so that he’ll be able to go. I was totally nervous as I signed up for them (thank goodness you can do that sort of thing online) but I did it. I guess it’s easier to do that than to shop for furniture and the like because it’s non tangible. Plus, there’s a refund policy in place just in case. (I can’t stop thinking that the other shoe might drop even while attempting this progress thing.)
- I told my mom that I didn’t want a shower. I was totally dreading that conversation, because I knew what her reaction would be. She started right in with the “why not’s?” I told her that I didn’t feel comfortable having one, but apparently that wasn’t enough of an answer. I wasn’t budging, though. Ever since I decided that I wouldn’t be having one, I’ve felt so much better. It’s like a weight has been lifted off of me. One less thing anxiety producing thing is always a good thing in my mind.
- Dan and I decided on a name. We’re not referring to the little guy by it yet, but he does have one. I didn’t get around to telling my mom that we’ve decided to keep it to ourselves for the duration (she’s been asking quite often). I figured one thing at a time.
So, I figure all of that buys me a little time before I need to attempt anything else. As scary as it is and as much as I am still terrified that all of this won’t end up working out in the end, I have to admit that I feel a tiny sense of relief that I’ve let myself move forward just a tad.
- Posted in : Post cycle #7: Trying to stay knocked up
- Author : amanda
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Amanda,
I’m proud of you for sticking to your guns with your mother. They mean well, but sometimes they just “don’t get it”. Argh. It is so your choice to have/not a shower. Maybe there will be a welcome baby shower. A couple of friends of mine did that after 10 years of doing the same thing as you and Dan. They ended up adopting and 9 months later welcomed a baby of their own. What are the damn chances. I’m glad things are going well for you and Dan. Keep counting the days!
Good for you for putting your foot down. After all you’ve gone through to make it to this point, nobody should nag you to do a single thing you don’t want to do! Also, way to go on signing up for the hospital classes and deciding on a name. How exciting! It’s all starting to come together now.
Glad to hear you signed up for the classes and I hope your mother respects your wishes.
Take care
Good for you about sticking to your guns- how do you feel about a shower once he’s finally here? That might be a good compromise if your mom is still annoyed- if you still don’t want one at all, then she’ll just need to deal. As for the name thing, yeah, I hear you on that one. I was PISSED when my husband told my inlaws.
I love the idea of a “welcome baby” shower, when you can truly celebrate your little guy’s arrival. P came too early for me to have my last shower, so it was after he was born and it was the most fun. You can always keep telling your mom that you haven’t decided on a name, or tell her that you’re down to a couple of choices and you don’t want anyone to influence your decision. I was planning on telling name choices (since we didn’t find out gender ahead of time, I figured we could share names). The first person who asked, my aunt, said “Well, I wouldn’t pick either of those!” when I told her our choices. I didn’t tell another person for the rest of my pregnancy.
Stick to your guns…it’s about the only thing you CAN control in this whole process.
I think it’s a great idea to have a welcome baby party! That sounds like a great compromise and a lot of fun. We refused to tell anyone our names either until after the birth. We had made up our minds and didn’t want to hear any opinions either way. Plus it was fun to keep everyone in suspense!
Congrats on the progress. I am firmly of the belief that it’s your party and you have it if you want to. You get to choose how you proceed during this pregnancy. Good for you for sticking to your guns.
So you are doing it the Swedish/German way then. No Baby shower. Wise decision I think ;), they are overrated anyways and a welcome baby party is anyways much better - you got something to show off (Ok now you already have the gorgeous belly to show. I just see the little banana in the big banana:)) then.
I liked that you named the post “Progress”, however you should not forget that you are progressing on a daily basis. You are doing so great! Am very very happy for you!
Good luck with the hospital classes!
Hugs!
I think the whole shower before the baby comes is an American thing?? Here in Canada we only ever have baby showers *after* the baby is born - what’s the fun when there’s no baby to cuddle?!? So just tell them you’re being multicultural or something. ;) Regardless it is YOUR decision.
Good for you for doing what you need to. I also like the idea of the welcome baby shower!
I’m so happy to hear about your decisions and your comfort level going up a bit. It sounds like you’re in a good place and congrats on signing up for the classes.
I am glad you are standing your ground. I know I need to practice that!
It’s your pregnancy, your baby, your life. Now one should have more say than you.
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