My New Plan B April 30, 2010
Every time I cycled pre-Adam, I had a Plan B in place. It was the only way I could get through it, knowing that there was something else waiting on the other side if it didn’t work. The same can be said this time around, although my new Plan B has not a thing to do with the reproductive system.
I knew that if our one and only post-Adam cycle failed, I’d need a change. I was right. I need to move in a different direction, and I think I am. We’re putting our house on the market soon and moving closer to the city center. Right now we live in the burbs, and I need something else.
Our house is nice, don’t get me wrong, but a house with 5 bedrooms and 4.5 bathrooms is a house for a big family. That’s not us. I’ve come to accept that it won’t ever be us, so on we move.
It’s really important to me to provide Adam with as much as I can. I’d love to be nearer to museums and the zoo and all the fun stuff that’s close in. Not to mention the fact that Dan works downtown, and we even drive in every weekend to do our grocery shopping.
So, that’s why I haven’t been posting. It’s not because I haven’t wanted to. It’s just because I’ve been busy. It is hard work getting a house ready to be put on the market, and I can only do so much during Adam’s nap time each day. (Although, I have to say that Adam is a fantastic helper when it comes to organization. He’s all about helping me do the “get the house ready projects.”)
It’s been good, though, really good. I always love a good project, and this is a pretty darn good one. It’s been the transition I’ve needed from “what could have been” to “what will be.”
There’s still a lot to do, although it seems like I’ve been working on this for quite a while. I actually started getting things going when the first pee stick was negative. The crazy betas and ectopic madness didn’t stop me from getting things moving. Heck, Adam and I were going through the house purging things we no longer needed while I had a time bomb ticking in me.
I’m not quite sure what I’ll do once it’s all done, but right now I’m enjoying the process. Yes, I’m exhausted, but it’s a good exhausted. Maybe it’s not what we planned, but things don’t always work out like you had originally hoped. All you can do is make the best of the situation, and it honestly feels like I’m doing even more than that. It feels like the fresh start we need right now.
- Posted in : Life after IF
- Author : amanda
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A new house! That’s really exciting. I look forward to hearing about the process, and where it takes you!
Yes, very exciting! Good for you for making the change you need and doing it NOW. I am sure you guys are going to love being closer in. City living is fun!
That’s great! So many awesome neighborhoods to choose from too…sounds like a great plan B. Wow, 5 bedrooms! Hope you don’t have to clean that thing by yourself. :)
That’s exciting, Amanda! What a nice plan B to have, and it’s great that Adam is helping to prepare for it!
What a great project. I love a move every now and then. It adds excitement to life. Especially when you can stay close enough to maintain contact with friends.
What a great plan B – good luck – I hate moving, but love looking at houses.
Wow, that wonderful! I, of course, could find something to fill every one of the 5 bedrooms for just me and Hubby, but htat’s not necessarily a good thing! ;) Good luck with the packing and the move! May your house sell quickly, and you find the perfect new home for your beautiful family.
Wow! A 5 bedroom house is pretty big! My DH would love that though…he’d have a couple rooms for all of his stuff! But, I think what you’re doing is very therapeutic and exciting! A big house is also a big pain to clean and maintain. I’m glad you’ll be able to hang out with Adam and do more fun things with him now that he’s getting a little older. Good luck with the move!
Plan B sounds exciting!
When we bought our home (4 BR, open living spaces, huge backyard) we were TTC… fast forward 8 years later and FINALLY our house is a home, full of toys and bikes and baby gear. Although we went the adoption route, for a looooong time I avoided walking by what are now the kids’ rooms – it was too painful to look at those empty rooms and not know if/when our kids would be home.
Good luck with the move, hope you find your dream home!
Well, you’re going to market at exactly the right time. The most house sales actually open escrow on mother’s day weekend. I think you’re idea is good: move to the city where you can enjoy what it has with your little man. A 5 bedroom house can be a heartbreaking memory of failed cycles, a bit much to keep up, and you’ll love not having to make “drives” to get groceries!
I, too, haven’t been posting much lately. New job, blogger cut their FTP access so I have to migrate over to their site. Maybe I’ll get around to it this weekend.
I’m off to NYC to visit Dr. Indian for CD3 blood and an u/s this AM. If my FSH has come back down I’ll cycle. If not, I’ll see if he can do surgery to assess what the heck my right ovary is doing (which is apparently NOTHING from the u/s two days ago at another new clinic).
A fresh start sounds like a perfect idea. how fun that will be for Adam to be close to the zoo and museums. Shorter communte will be good for hubs and you too. I hope your house sells quickly and you find the perfect new place for your family
Gosh, I know what you mean about needing a plan B. I set up a job interview, for goodness sake. I think about going back to school.
I hope the house sells quickly and you find the perfect fit for your family of 3.
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