Moving! October 25, 2010
Has it seriously been three months since my last post? Yeah, I officially suck.
I guess part of my excuse is that I’ve just been plain busy. The other half is that I don’t need this blog the way I used to. I guess that’s good and bad.
We finally got an offer on our house on 9/18, about 4 months after we listed it. Given the market in our neighborhood, that’s pretty darn good. Nothing is selling. Houses are just sitting on the market even after multiple price reductions. We are lucky (plus I worked my ass off to have the perfectly staged house for each and every showing.)
We just found a house to buy. We are under contract and are going through the post-inspection negotiations right now. We are moving into the exact neighborhood we wanted to move into, in a location within the neighborhood that cannot be beat. I cannot wait.
There is a lot on my plate right now. We’ve got to get through the sale of our house and the purchase of a new one. Plus, our new house (knock on wood) is a renovation project. We’ll be gutting the kitchen soon after we move and updating other parts of the house as well. I love a good project, so I should be set for the near future.
I am so happy to have not only found a buyer for our house, but to have found a house that Dan, Adam, and I all like. (Adam’s a hard sell, I tell ya.) There is a part of me, though, that realizes that this whole situation is bittersweet.
If our one and only post Adam IVF cycle had not ended in an exploding ectopic then things would be very different. There would be no new house. There would just be a new baby soon.
My sister in law (the one with the unplanned pregnancy) just had her baby this week. I would have been due soon. It’s hard.
Mostly I’m ok. I’m healing, truly. It’s just that sometimes I feel like I’ve passed a huge fork in the road and am glancing back every now and then. What would have the other fork have been like? I’ll never know.
I do know that I’m going to make the best of the fork I’m on, and I’m going to figure out the best way to do that. It’s not always easy, but it I think I can do it.
This house stuff has been great for me. Getting our house ready to put on the market helped me work through the post ectopic pain in a manageable way. Selling our house and working on stuff for the new one is helping me through the due date/SIL is having a baby time. To me, having serious projects are not a way to escape reality. They’re just a way to get through the initial pain, the hardest most grueling part for me, while allowing myself time to process the rest. That’s the real work.
So yeah, new house! New opportunities. I’m excited for me, but I’m even more excited for Adam. (He is amazing, I tell ya. A big boy! How did that happen?) Good things to come, I do believe.