Moving! October 25, 2010
Has it seriously been three months since my last post? Yeah, I officially suck.
I guess part of my excuse is that I’ve just been plain busy. The other half is that I don’t need this blog the way I used to. I guess that’s good and bad.
We finally got an offer on our house on 9/18, about 4 months after we listed it. Given the market in our neighborhood, that’s pretty darn good. Nothing is selling. Houses are just sitting on the market even after multiple price reductions. We are lucky (plus I worked my ass off to have the perfectly staged house for each and every showing.)
We just found a house to buy. We are under contract and are going through the post-inspection negotiations right now. We are moving into the exact neighborhood we wanted to move into, in a location within the neighborhood that cannot be beat. I cannot wait.
There is a lot on my plate right now. We’ve got to get through the sale of our house and the purchase of a new one. Plus, our new house (knock on wood) is a renovation project. We’ll be gutting the kitchen soon after we move and updating other parts of the house as well. I love a good project, so I should be set for the near future.
I am so happy to have not only found a buyer for our house, but to have found a house that Dan, Adam, and I all like. (Adam’s a hard sell, I tell ya.) There is a part of me, though, that realizes that this whole situation is bittersweet.
If our one and only post Adam IVF cycle had not ended in an exploding ectopic then things would be very different. There would be no new house. There would just be a new baby soon.
My sister in law (the one with the unplanned pregnancy) just had her baby this week. I would have been due soon. It’s hard.
Mostly I’m ok. I’m healing, truly. It’s just that sometimes I feel like I’ve passed a huge fork in the road and am glancing back every now and then. What would have the other fork have been like? I’ll never know.
I do know that I’m going to make the best of the fork I’m on, and I’m going to figure out the best way to do that. It’s not always easy, but it I think I can do it.
This house stuff has been great for me. Getting our house ready to put on the market helped me work through the post ectopic pain in a manageable way. Selling our house and working on stuff for the new one is helping me through the due date/SIL is having a baby time. To me, having serious projects are not a way to escape reality. They’re just a way to get through the initial pain, the hardest most grueling part for me, while allowing myself time to process the rest. That’s the real work.
So yeah, new house! New opportunities. I’m excited for me, but I’m even more excited for Adam. (He is amazing, I tell ya. A big boy! How did that happen?) Good things to come, I do believe.
- Posted in : Life after IF
- Author : amanda
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I’m so excited for you. I kept seeing your last post up, and hoping all was okay with you. This is great, something positive to embrace and enjoy.
I know the rest of the stuff is there, but for me nothing helps like a major project to move ahead.
Congratulations on the house selling/buying! Projects are great, I agree.
Best wishes as you continue to navigate the fork you are on…
Good stuff! Thank you for the update!
Yay!! So happy to hear that you are moving and to a new house you love so much! I wish you all the best with the move. I know it’ll be hectic, but also gratifying! :) :)
I understand about the fork in the road. I am still on a path myself but going towards our final attempt. I have appreciated all your support and advice throughout my journey. Your constant comments have helped so much!
Hope you will share how you are settling into your new house. Only wish you the best.
I know with IVF it is hard not to have other pregnancies and births affect you. I swear after my ectopic I have gotten news of everyone else in my life expecting or giving birth. It was hard, but I just focused on Jack and know at least I was blessed with him. :) Can’t help but think about if things turned out differently – it’s natural. It happens, but I try like you to keep focus on what I have right in front of me. Our little boys are gifts that come in funny, sweet, loving, at times exasperating, amazing little packages. :) Jack knows he is my miracle. And though the pain of the failed cycles linger on and never leave us – we hope they become a dull ache in light of all the smiles and hugs we get to share with the “little embryos of ours” that could. :)
You have a beautiful family soon to start anew in a beautiful house. I for one am really happy for you! :) :) Good Luck with everything!!!
Congratulations on selling the house! I know how much that’s been stressing you both. Great news that things are moving in the right direction and you’ve found a house you all like.
So glad to see a post from you.
Congrats on the new house and selling the old. A project is *always* a good thing to have.
I hear you completely – October was the due date for the catastrophic miscarriage earlier this year, and the first time I’ve really noted a loss due date – the others seemed so obviously doomed. I thought it was supposed to be different, but it turned out this way.
Thinking of you.
It’s good to hear from you! Congrats on both the sale of your old house and finding exactly what you wanted in a new one. It is probably good that you have a lot on your plate right now so you aren’t forced to cope with your own loss AND your SIL’s pregnancy/baby at the same time. That would just be too much. All the hustle and bustle of moving will let the reality trickle in at a manageable rate.
I realize you don’t have a need for this blog anymore so if you don’t return – understandable. Hopefully you’ll start something new and let us all know where to find you though. :-)
So glad to hear an update. I was getting ready to email you to check up.
Congrats on the house stuff! Sounds like it will be perfect.
Hoping for healing for you.
Congrats on the house!
I love hearing you so happy and at peace :) If anyone deserves both things, it’s you!
XO
I’m so glad that the house got sold and you found a new great home! It sounds like it will be nice to get a fresh start. Happy renovating!
Yippee, Amanda!
This is good. And, yes, keep your focus on the fork you are on.
(She says following a good cry after a neighbor excitedly tells her she is going for an u/s for second child that reactivates memories of a very.bad.ultrasound.experience, of which said neighbor will likely never know.)
All best wishes always-love hearing from you and about your family–
Cathy
Still keeping up with you. Post some pics of the house. I too love renovation projects! I’m trying to decide whether to fix up This Old House or build a new one.
Bittersweet is full of could have beens. Your little guy (now a big boy) and your new home is full of will bes. I know how hard it is to look back at that other road and wonder and it’s ok to do that we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. I am just so thankful you have all that you do have because you truly deserve to be happy.